My Hopes for My Son

My Hopes for My Son

Being pregnant is entirely different from being a parent. Not just the care and attention that goes into keeping him alive and healthy, but the feelings you have for the little being growing in your belly versus actually meeting him.

It’s an incredible emotional time for me and only partly due to hormones. I’ve cried every day just looking at him and knowing that we made him and that we get to keep him. I’m just so full of love for this little person that it physically hurts. It’s a feeling that I never expected and I feel you can never be fully prepared for – that this little person I grew inside my body is so full of potential.

So, Shai Aleksander Chmerkovskiy, even though I haven’t been your mommy for very long, I’m already in awe of you. As you get bigger and learn more and do more, here’s what mommy hopes for you:

Through injury and illness, I’ve learned to never take my body for granted. And even though these things are inevitable, I hope you lead a long and healthy life.

I hope you live a happy life filled with laughter, love and purpose. You’re barely a week old and you’ve already brought immeasurable joy to so many people’s lives – especially your mommy and daddy’s. You are so incredibly loved, you know that? And even though you will feel sadness and anger, I’ll do my best to make sure they’re far outnumbered by moments of silliness, joy, laughter, hope, surprise and, above all, love.

You’re a lucky little boy who will have many toys and clothes because your mommy and daddy have worked very hard and been very lucky themselves. Because of that, you will have many amazing opportunities in your life – ones that a lot of other children won’t have. I hope you appreciate this privileged start and work hard for every success that comes after it.

When I was a little girl, I set an outrageous goal for myself – to be on the big stage in Hollywood. There were some who told me it wasn’t possible as a dancer and encouraged me to pursue something more realistic like being a doctor. But your mommy is a dreamer, and a worker, and a doer. I hope that you, too, fearlessly follow your dreams.

I know that you will be a determined little boy because, for better or worse, both of your parents are incredibly strong-willed and driven. With determination and hard work, you can have anything you want – but sometimes there will be setbacks and detours on your path to success. When those times come, I hope you will always know that your mommy and daddy will stand behind whatever decision you make. I will do everything I can to help you succeed and always be there if you fall.

I want to raise a person who will make the world a better place – someone who will look out for others and lead with compassion. I hope you will treat others with kindness.

Whether furry or feathered, wild or tame, weird or graceful, I hope you appreciate animals of all kinds, and treat them with respect for their independent spirits and the beauty they bring to the world.

One of the things I love most about your daddy is that he’s one of the most generous, kind-hearted people I’ve ever met. There are a lot of characteristics of his that I hope you inherit, but I especially hope you inherit his big heart and generous spirit.

And finally, selfishly, I hope you see us, your parents, as decent human beings. We want to be the kind of people you can admire, not because of what we’ve achieved, but because you know that we’re good people with good hearts whose greatest success will always be you.

Photo Credit: Stefania Orru

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  1. Thank you for sharing that, Peta! You have a beautiful heart.
    I don’t know if you’ve read Harry Potter. If you have what I’m going to say you already know. If you haven’t, you undoubtedly will become very familiar with Harry Potter now that you have a child. In any case, the entire backbone of the Harry Potter story is love. The love that Harry’s mother had for him is what gives Harry the power to overcome darkness. It is his protection.
    In expressing your love for your son you are infusing him with protection. And by sharing that love with all of us, you are sharing that protection. It’s the heart of humanity. It’s the expression of what is innately good in living, sentient creatures. And it’s what this world needs at this dark time.
    So thank you for the bravery of sharing your mother’s heart with your newborn son with all of the world. It truly gives me hope for all of humanity. It’s that love that we have for our family, especially our babies, that unites us. It’s what we have in common. It is outrageously powerful as are you.
    Sending love to you and Maks and Shai. xo

    Posted by: Annie on March 18, 2017 at 1:21 pm
  2. Beautifully written from a mother’s heart. So very precious.

    Posted by: Kathy on March 18, 2017 at 9:55 am
  3. Absolutely beautiful post about your love for your son and husband-to-be. You have worked hard and now can reap the rewards! Congratulations, Peta! I admire you. when you were in Kansas City several years back at the Anselmo DWTS event, I rode in the back seat with you to a WCS dance afterparty. It was Tony, you, me and Gil! You probably don’t remember, but I’ve always followed you since then! Love, Kathy from Kansas

    Posted by: Kathy Fors on March 8, 2017 at 12:34 pm
  4. With you as his mom there is no doubt his going to grow up as wonderful person. He is going to be very like since he has parents who wish the best for him.

    Posted by: Anonimous on March 6, 2017 at 4:10 pm

    Posted by: Agnes on March 6, 2017 at 8:07 am
  6. Beautifully written

    Posted by: Brittany on March 5, 2017 at 12:28 am
  7. So beautiful

    Posted by: Stela on March 4, 2017 at 9:55 pm
  8. Well said! I started a journal for each of my kids starting when I was pregnant and writing in it periodically while they were growing up…the good and sometimes not so good. Didn’t want them to think I was always in love with them 🙂 They are now 30 and 33 and I will finish writing in them when they both give birth over the next couple of months and give it to them. I also kept doing their ‘baby books’ til they got married and would add separate pages for what they did over each year….Crazy!! Anyways, enjoy your new son and you guys will be amazing parents over the years. I love that you two are together as I love DWTS. How lovely that your love and son came out of that show ❤️

    Posted by: Bev Rutledge, Canada on March 4, 2017 at 7:42 am
  9. Omg it was so beautiful that it made me cry. Pita your an amazing woman and mother. Your feelings and thoughts are so on point. God has blessed you and Max so continue to cherish every second and moment. They grow up fast. But you both will be excellent parents with great values. God bless

    Posted by: Cynthia Melendez on March 4, 2017 at 6:55 am
  10. Peta, l loved every word in your letter to your son. You are a wonderful and loving mother to your son. You brought tears to my eyes. I had the same feelings for my son who is now turning 21 in a few days. Times goes by so quickly, little ones grow up so fast. Enjoy every moment. I loved bonding with my son when he was little and l still do today. God Bless You! I love you! The baby and Maks! You are a beautiful family!

    Posted by: Doris on March 3, 2017 at 10:19 pm