You know how they say opposites attract? That’s completely not Peta and I.
Sometimes it’s like we’re an identical person. She’s stubborn. I’m stubborn. She’s a go-getter. I’m a go-getter. And even though neither of us came from money or anything, we know exactly what we want our life to look like and like to set ambitious goals for our future.
When we got engaged, we started more seriously talking about starting a family. Like, I’d always wanted a winter baby. In the book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell says that success was sometimes a matter of being in the right place at the right time. Winter babies were at an advantage over their peers born later in the year because they had that much more time to grow and learn. So the plan became “In a year and a half, we’ll have done X, Y and Z, then we’ll try for a winter baby.”
So when we found out Peta was pregnant, that plan came crashing down in a very good way.
For the first time in a long time, I had time for myself. I wasn’t on Dancing With the Stars, so there was no crazy schedule and back-to-back season-tour, season-tour. I was able to concentrate on my studios and other business ventures while Peta and her partner killed it on their season.
Now, I’m not a big Vegas person and I’m not a huge golfer – at least not as big a golfer as people think I am – but when I was invited to play in the Derek Jeter Celebrity Invitational golf tournament, I thought why not?
Even though the tournament organizers were going to make all the travel arrangements, I just had this feeling – not a premonition or anything like that – just a feeling that I should drive instead of fly. So I talked to Tony Dovolani, one of my best friends and fellow Dancing with the Stars personality, and asked if it’s cool if we just drive there, so we could jump in the car and drive back if we needed to. He kind of looked at me weird but agreed, so we went off on a buddy road trip out to Las Vegas.
I was in a car with 20 other people on our way to the golf course when Peta called.
“Baby… I have some good news…”
I was elated, but I was surrounded by people, so I tried to play it cool and make it seem like nothing happened. Really, I just wanted to preserve this feeling so Peta and I could share it together – for a little while, at least.
As soon as I hung up the phone, Tony, who has three kids, looked at me and said, “She’s pregnant, isn’t she?” I tried to play it off like, “Why would you even say that?” But Tony just said, “Because I had the same dumbass look on my face when I first found out.” I guess that look is universal.
At that point, I knew I just had to get back. Of course, I felt so bad because Tony had canceled his plane ticket so we could have our little road trip, but he understood how exciting this was for me. So we skipped the rest of the tournament and flew – well, drove really fast – back to Los Angeles, back to Peta.
In that sense, things worked out perfect. It’s exactly what we wanted, though maybe not when or how we’d planned it. But, going back to Outliers, sometimes it’s a matter of being in the right place at the right time.
I may not wear my heart on my sleeve, but I’m so happy for us. The realization that we’re having a baby isn’t like a surprise party where you walk in, everyone yells “happy birthday” and the feeling is gone by the time you blow out the candles – it’s something I keep feeling day after day. Every day is a new surprise, a new gift.
So when I look at Peta getting more and more pregnant and just feel this positive flow of emotions, it’s like hearing the news all over again.
In case you missed it, click here to check out Peta’s reaction on finding out she’s expecting.
Photo Credit: Daniel Zelikovsky